OR VALIDATION.

MY YOUNGEST SON LEFT HOME TO FOLLOW HIS HEART IN 2005.  HE LEFT JUST AFTER HIS 18TH BIRTHDAY TO PURSUE HIS OWN DESTINATION. 

I AM WILLING TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR SOME OF HIS FRUSTRATION AT HOME.  ON A REGULAR BASIS, I SAID THAT HE IS COMPLETELY RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS REALITY.  AND AT THE SAME TIME I KNEW THIS MESSAGE WAS... UNBELEIVABLE.

SO MY LAST CONVERSATION WAS... YOU ARE LIVING WITH YOUR FIANCE'S PARENT'S, YOU BOTH ARE  NOT WORKING AND YOU WANT YOUR DAD AND I TO PAY FOR YOUR WEDDING BECAUSE YOU ALL PUT DOWN A DEPOSIT?

BECAUSE MY CHILD AND I WERE HAVING A CONVERSATION... I SAID "I'M WILLING TO HAVE ANOTHER CONVERSATION, GATHER ALL THE CONTRACTUAL OBLIGATION  'CAUSE I WANT TO KNOW WHAT WE ARE ALL COMMITTED TO.   AND OBVIOUSLY I'LL NEED TO HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FATHER (WHO SAID, YOU'LLL NEED TO TALK TO YOUR MOM AND LEFT ON A FISHING TRIP.)

I HAVE COME TO A CONCLUSION...  A NEED TO BE SUZIE ORMAN FROM A FIANCIALLY REALITY BASED PERSPECTIVE.  NOW IS THE TIME TO GET THE DEPOSIT BACK.

VALIDATION WOULD BE HELPFUL, FOR THE NEXT DISCUSSION.

SINCERELY,

Anne A. Findley