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Ha! I would, only I still have the crusty pot and ladle sitting on my own stove right now.

thank you Anne :) I have to say, I turned back to Gabster at my moment of weakness because I knew that if anything it would be a soft place to fall. Sometimes it hasn't been, but in this last week... it's been all I have. Sometimes support, even over the computer is important. For now, it's all I have. My husband is there. However, he is straddling alot right now between me and his mom. I can only imagine the crap that she's flinging at him. He's stood up for me. It's just been rough.

I appreciate your support. Hopefully by next week it'll all be done and I can just let this blow over.

"the host we have COME to enjoy..." Oh Ann, you always know how to make a boy feel special and loved. HeeHee -- God, I just love ya to pieces! :-)

I believe that happiness is not FOUND, it is CHOSEN. So, yes... I choose to be happy and attempt to push forth in order to eliminate the moments when the stress bogs me down. I'm doing my best and some days I'm doing much better than others :)

We had the funniest conversation last night. She declaired that she was making dinner tonight and Cecelia did the dirty work for me! She said: "Then you cannot have dinner up there." (indicating my mil's house)

My sil responded with the point that she was PLANNING on being here :)

Usually we would switch off... her, then me... so maybe things will change.

Excellent point! She does need to find her own validation. I remember being compared to my mother-in-law too and I struggled so deeply with that constant comparison. Thankfully, I embraced cooking and chose to get better and learn.

What my sil doesn't realize is that there are plenty of things that I am intimidated by her about, but I don't let it ruin my day. I KNOW that what she recieves and the attentions she gets are different. I am simply happy for anything that I get. I don't let a competition with her wage in order to feel good about myself. I asked her: "How can I help you to feel that there is no competition." She had nothing to say. I'm just hurt right now. It's like all my efforts don't matter because she is insecure and I have to deal with that.

Excellent advice! "May every day lead to a new perspective." Part of respecting the relationships in our lives as well as being sensitive to family relations is using decernment. Wise women think deeply about their choices.

To new possibilities and growth in wisdom in 2009! *cheers*