The other hard thing in my life right now is the break up. I don't know how to deal with all of this, especially when we have a child together. Maybe someone can give me advice on this if you have been through it before? We are still in this in between stage where most of his things are still in the apt and he is sleeping on a friend's couch, except for last night when he decided to come in at 3 am drunk and asked me if he could sleep on the couch because he was too drunk to drive to his friends. I was so mad, I couldn't believe him. First of all, I am freaked out living by myself, we had someone break into our apt once when I was pregnant and I can't even take a shower by myself now without thinking that someone is going to break in. So when I heard the door open last night, I had a bat in one hand and my phone in the other ready to call 911. Then I heard his voice and figured out that it was him and just told him to go sleep on the couch and leave me alone.
So the past week has been crazy, we are planning on me moving out soon and he will move back here, but until then, both of our stuff will still be here and technically since he is taking over the apt, he is free to come and go but it is still weird when he comes over. This week has been so weird trying to figure out what our relationship is now that we are broken up and plus the fact that it still feels like he lives here since he has been here almost everyday getting clothes or watching Joella. He came over the other day and I was supposed to have class but then my class was cancelled and so I came home early and I told him he could take Joella to the park or somewhere if he wanted to spend more time with her, but he just told me that he had made plans with a friend. And it kind of startled me, I thought he would stay to be with her and then I just realized that he could decide that he didn't ever want to see her and it freaked me out. I don't think he is that kind of person but then again, I never thought he was the type to cheat on me either.
Then he called me soon after leaving and said how hurt he was and how bad he felt...blah, blah, blah and I basically told him that I have no sympathy for him and he deserves to be hurting, I don't think he is really sorry yet, just sorry that he got caught. Maybe that is too harsh of me, but I don't think he deserves to be forgiven yet, it's too early and it's kind of driving me crazy that he wants to always talk to me when I see him. I keep telling him that there is nothing to talk about, we are not getting back together, there is nothing to work out, he cheated on me and lied to me, we are done.
Anyway, I need to get to bed now. I just wrote him a text saying that I hope he doesn't plan on spending the night here again and he wrote back, "why? was that a problem?" Obviously, he still doesn't understand anything.
How long do you think it will take for him to find a place of his own? I would think that once he's able to take all his stuff, it will be easier to impose some sort of visitation rules. I'm not sure if you'd have to go through the court, but most likely there will be some rules that need to be ironed out at some point. After all, childsupport and visitation is kinda a legal issue.
ZHow much stuff is his? Could it be fit in boxes or would it be too much for him to put into his car?
07:55 AM CST