by Ian Punnett
This is a blog just for the listeners of Coast to Coast AM.
Just the other night I took a few phone calls from some folks who were expressing fatigue about living in complicated times. One caller expressed his cynicism on staying optimistic in his interactions with others when tempers are hot and trigger fingers are itchy. Many people are concerned that it will never get any better, that somehow we have turned a corner where hostility is the norm and civility is out of fashion. Emotions, one caller pointed out, seem so heightened politically and socially that he was unsure how we would survive October, never mind the outcome of the election.
I’m paraphrasing his sentiments but I hope you catch the core of it. It reminded me of how somebody slammed me the other night. In an e-mail and a posting on a website, somebody, I think he called himself “William,” contended I won’t let other people express opposing views.
This is, of course, to me beyond ridiculous. I love opposing views, new points of view and changing my own opinion as well as discourse that leads others to change theirs. I have built my career on it and it has served me well. Every single day I have been on the air--and this goes long back to my days as disc jockey--I have invited and cherished opinions on any subject.
But what I won’t do--never have and never will--is to allow anybody’s pure emotionalism to take over a phone call or a show. The same thing should be true in all of our discourse, wherever it is. Be passionate--great. Be confident in the rightness of your opinion, amen, but, at least as far as I’m concerned, if you can’t express your opinion without making it a personal attack on the person with whom you disagree, then keep it to yourself.
Also, if we are so worked up in our frustrations, our angers, our resentments that all we can do is lash out and swing, try to dominate others so that every conversation we have is a “zero-sum game,” no middle ground, no mutual respect for each being humans or fellow citizens, then we will lose even when we win.
Being in dialogue with somebody with whom you disagree means resisting the impulse to invalidate the other person before they’ve even had a chance to speak. Don’t start with your charges, don’t dehumanize the person you’re speaking with by trying to define them as crazy, un-American, the enemy or not worthy of your respect before they’ve even had a chance to speak. If the other person is not worthy of your respect, why are you even talking to them?
I know that stakes are high and many people feel the coarse scratchiness of a their backs up against the wall.
But there are lots of reasons to keep our cool, to keep our ears open, our minds from shutting down and volume in check. For the purposes of this discussion, I’ll mention one of them: it’s the Coast to Coast way. Resisting the impulse to reject each other or invalidate your conversation partner is the way we try to do it in the overnight hours.
Right now, that’s a dual challenge. First order of business is to refrain from the rudeness of the closed-minded, the usual laundry list of negativity, the usual kitchen sinking, the usual pump and run caller style of ideologically driven talk radio out of Coast to Coast.
And at the same time, let’s export the free-thinking, conversational, deep, alternative thinking that is the hallmark of C2C to a world has forgotten how to think out of the box, how to talk to itself, how to re-imagine its future, to re-assess how we got here.
It’s the free man who is not afraid to go to the end of his ideas.
The world needs us. Let’s not lose our way before we can help others find theirs.





