I don't make a point about blogging about other people's lives-but this one is just eating me up inside so I figure I'll put it to paper.

It's about my BFF-Kristin.  We've been friends since college-and when she is in town to visit-I can always count on late nights talking about everything under the sun.  We flew out for her wedding in Vegas last January-what a time we had!  Two weeks later she woke up with half her face paralyzed from Bell's Palsy.  Two months later, she could no longer dress herself, had difficulty walking, slurred speech and difficulty grasping objects in front of her.  I wrote about her at the time, she'd just been told it might be multiple sclerosis.  Due her doctor's inexperience/cowardice she spent the next six months traveling around the midwest trying to get an actual diagnosis.  In September they finally settled on the original diagnosis of MS and she was finally able to start treatment.  The good news is that she is getting better!!!  She only has to use a cane outside due to the snow/ice and is able to stand up in the shower again. 

A week ago her husband sat her down and told her that he wanted an annullment-that he thought that marriage shouldn't be this hard.  Did  I mention she spent the last three years supporting him while he went to school, and he now has a job?  He told her that he just wasn't the marrying kind-that the only reason he asked her is he felt she deserved it for all the time they'd been together.  He followed this up by stating that one day she would be proud of him for making this decision.  WTF? 

He's not an entirely unsympathetic character to me.  They've never really had the time to settle into the normal routine of marriage (which is difficult in itself.)  Deciding to be a caretaker for someone has to be incredibly difficult and ultimately personal decision.  Of course since he's hurt my friend I hate him.  That's the way I roll.

But here's what really burns me up-when she told her good friend at work-she was told, that "sometimes people make mistakes-and that they should own up to them and that's okay.  Some people shouldn't stay married."  Turns out the "friend" had been meeting with her husband behind her back.  They both admitted to being "interested" in each other, both are divorcing their spouses and they both claim that they didn't do anything because of their respect for their families.  When her friend found out she knew, she texted her saying that "she could pull her hair if she wanted."  What a effin bitch.  If you didn't do anything than why say you were interested in each other.  At anytime this would make me angry but to do this to her with what she is dealing with is shameful.  When I think about it I just get so angry-I want to fly out there and do some damage.  (what damage I could do with a little one is questionable, but I still feel that deep fierceness that happens when someone close to you is hurting.)

I'm writing this down, because I don't think my going off on her husband is particularly helpful for my friend.  I'm just trying to check in and listen right now.  What suggestions do you have for me?