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Someday I'm going to make a spread of Martha's cookies that will look perfect. However, I believe this may have to happen when the girls are teens so that their ambition will override my foot-dragging. It's so much work!

I dropped off a "thank you" note in person and handed it to one of the people who interviewed me. She said "OH THANKS!!" when I gave her the card and she said that I'd be hearing from them soon....SOOOOOO, I'm going CRAZY.

It seemed good, but you never ever know...

Thanks for asking!!
XO, MM

I completely agree... I'm the help. I will be the post-partem helper. More than likely I will do the lions-share of the work and all the meals. So, really there is no need for additional people to be in my house trying to "help". Also, often the way it works when people are coming in from out of town is despite their best efforts, it is never less stressful. Even if it is family, they become guests. You cannot really relax until they are gone and feel like you have to prepare yourself for everything.

Tonight at dinner it was a bit awkward, but they talked about looking for apartments. Maybe I pissed them off, but I think it was important for them to realize that we've lived on less... independently. We should not be required to wait till he finds the perfect job that pays more than he's worth. It's not our job to make sure that he can meet all his dreams. Therefore, even if this job is not the end-all, you make do. Possibly if he got a paper-route as we suggested in the first place, it would help suppliment their income enough. Even with all our children, I still had a part-time gig to keep things afloat. My husband has always worked several jobs as needed. So, until he lands the job that pays 50k a year, they will have to figure it out just like the rest of us.



Thankfully, I feel that at least I stood up for myself. Maybe they will see it. Maybe they won't. However, that's not my problem. I need to care for my family and do the best I can. Right now, I cannot handle a stream of guests all Jan. I DO have enough on my plate and I don't really care what is "expected" when a new baby comes. They can have all the guests they would like once they have their own apartment.

:)

I'll totally have to have you over with your little one.

ugh, I despise the old women that want to tell people what they are doing wrong with their babies! (all of them)



I have a very NEEDY cousin and had a professor tell me during a bad time in my cousin's life that I had to look out for myself and my family as #1 now that I had a child. It helped to put things into perspective for me at the time, and I know how it is to want to do as much as you can for the people you love.



If you need an ear or an eyeball on the computer screen, feel free to let me know. My dad was diagnosed with MS when I was in 8th grade, so I am familiar with this disease, but not an expert.

lol- Thank you for your kind words. Yes, I'm managing... trying to make time for myself and for each of the kids despite the craziness.



As for that e-mail, I too had a bunch of come-backs. What irked me after re-reading it the final time was the fact that she insinuated that I called it a "business venture". The only business that I've been involved of as of late has not been discussed in any public forum and it is definitely about BUSINESS. Making money by providing services... that's the only business I've ever been involved in.

This, has nothing to do with business. I simply want to help this woman out... I'm not that desperate for money that I feel it necessary to call this a business venture.



*sigh*

Alas, I went through the e-mail and then decided to just write a quick "I don't believe it will be productive to have coffee" e-mail with 2 lines. I haven't received a response back.

Too much excitement and fun this weekend? :)

I am glad that you are doing a bit better! Honestly, sometimes it just helps to give in to the sadness than fight it and pretend.



And thanks for thinking of my girl. What is most difficult about a child grieving is there is nothing you can say to "make it better." It sucks, this is what life is about. I'm trying to teach her to embrace what she has more fully because of the very big losses she has suffered in that past few years.